OH HEY, BIRTH PARTNER
THE PARTNER GUIDE
HERe's YOUR Comprehensive guide to SHOWING UP CONFIDENTLY, INTELLIGENTLY, and JoyFULLY – and also?
You're going to actually know what's going on and what you're doing.
Let’s TALK SHOP,
okay?
TELL ME IF THIS SOUNDS RIGHT?
You want to be a partner who actually knows what to do…but what exactly is that?
Everyone makes this seem a little out-of-control - but you're thinking it really isn't.
Your best friend actually LOVED the birth - but there advice is a little lacking.
The birthing body is cool? Foreign? A mix of “WTF” and “holy hell, that's amazing”…but you're all in on understanding what it's actually doing.
You LOVE your partner and want the very best for them and that baby…and you've heard rumors that the hospital system can be a little tough.
I SEE YOU, PARTNER — AND IT MAKES PERFECT SENSE.
No one focuses on you - or at least, not enough! And I get it, you're not having the baby. BUT - your presence, your knowledge, your love? THEY CAN CHANGE THE GAME HERE. So you need to be taught what to know, where to step up, how to advocate, and what to actually do when those contractions hit.
That's where this guide comes in…
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Repeat after me
I can help this baby be born.
My presence at our birth matters.
I am needed too.
BIRTH PARTNERS ARE BORN RIGHT HERE.
The thing is, the focus isn't on you during the birth, but that doesn't mean you can't show up with focus. I've seen thousands of birth partners (some bad, some great, and everything in between) and the very best ones always did the work. They knew they could play a role. They trusted the process. The understood their choices.
They were NOT passive participants - they were partners. And those joyful, empowered births were their victory too.
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Build your birth squad
You know what? If they had to, I think your partner could do this alone. But I don't want them to. No one should. With this guide, you'll find a variety of tools and education related to creating a team that knows how to show up + support this process - with you and your partner as the leads.
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know the process
How much do you actually know about the pregnant body? Could you tell me what actually happens during birth? Do you know who will be there? How you can change the environment? What a hospital might actually be like? Let me tell you - so your partner feels seen and cared for throughout.
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understand THE body
Birth IS normal. Natural. It really is - and once you're through this guide, you'll see how the mom's body and baby's body are both designed to do this (and yes, you can help).
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fill your toolkit
Once you've got that mind, heart, and team ready, you gotta fill YOUR toolkit. You know, the whole “what do you actually do with your hands?” It's laid out in here - you'll never not know what to say, ask, or do next.
DID YOU KNOW…
I've seen hundreds of partners with no idea what to do
—you don't have to be one of them.
Curious how you can help during pregnancy? Wondering what to actually do when labor starts? Not sure how you can support postpartum?
If any of these questions have you saying "yes, that's me," then The Partner Guide is for you.
Help build a team that you both trust and feel safe with
Comprehensively prep - know how to ask good questions, say “no,' and make plans
Feel knowledgeable in the whole process, physically, mentally, and emotionally - and how to participate in each part
Help make choices, pivot, make changes, and speak up when your partner needs something different
Create an environment your partner needs, hear their body, and respond to their needs + your hopes
Trust the process - acknowledging your significant role and that you truly have the power to change how this goes for all of you
Ok, so how can YOU BE A PARTNER LIKE THIS?
The birth experience this guide wants to give you has been crafted after seeing hundreds and hundreds of births and birth partners, (accidentally) delivering a few patients, and being a birthing mama 4x myself. This is real knowledge, built from real patients, my own birth partner's experiences, and thousands of other real stories.
And you can have it.
Everyone deserves a partner who is informed, confident, excited and connected - and I want the guide to turn you into that person. You can love this. You can rock this. You can want to do this again and again.
Take this easy step towards that experience, right now, for only
$29
MEET THE nurse + mama — LO mANSFIELD
I live for the spark in your eyes when you realize that you actually can do the things everyone told you that you could.
Once upon a time I was a labor + postpartum nurse delivering multiple babies a week and crazy in love with all of it. If you want to meet someone who knows their passion in life? You found them - and my passion is you and your stories. However, when I started having my own babies, my own mama died. And that season of grief took me from the bedside and into my own healing and growth as a new mama.
But I missed you - so much. So 4 kids and a few years later, I built TLM, the resource I think everyone deserves as they head into #mamalife. In all that I do, you're getting unbiased, evidence-based, intuition-centered education. No slants, no “this is the way it's always been,” no best ways to do anything. I trust you to take information in and make the decisions that are right for your body, your baby, and your family.
WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?
It's time to craft a birth story where the partner (you) shines too.